Tuesday, July 27, 2010

I don't know where to begin

I've thought about several things to blog about over the past week and yet as I sit in front of my computer with time to actually write I don't know what to say or where to begin.  I'm blaming it on hormones. 

I guess I'll start with that tomorrow is Jacob's birthday.  He will be 3.  He can say "three" when asked how old you are so that is as exciting as turning 3 to me.  His language is just developing each day. 
Last night before bed we were trying on hats.  This is a picture of him in one of them.  He's started to do this screwed up little face whenever he asks a question.  I think its so funny, I'm his mom of course and I tend to think everything he does is cute and funny though.

On the weekend we went to the city and met up with his previous foster parents.  It was a really good visit.  He was a bit apprehensive at first but by the end of the visit he was his natural little self.  It was also really good for me too.  I got to meet the parents and now have a great deal of thanks to them for raising and loving my little man for 14 months of his life. 
After the visit we went to a farmer's market, picked up the usual, new baby potatoes. 
In the evening I met up with a friend that I hadn't seen in 10 years!  It was great to see her in person, (I can't say face to face because we sometimes skype and so I've seen her there).  We dated back to how we had actually first met and chuckeled about it. 
It's great to have those kind of friends, the ones that you may only see every 10 years, and talk to every few months but that you know your still good friends. 
Since being off I've realized what I expect in a friend.  Now some may think that is very forward of me to say "what I expect" but I don't think so.  Why is it that you can have expectations of what you want in a partner but you can't have state that you have expectations of a friend.  To heck with that, I'm saying it.  I have certain expectations of my friends.  They aren't outlandish expectations, similar to what anyone would say I would think.  Treat me with respect, because I respect you.  Be an understanding ear when I need it, because I do the same for you.  Keep in touch, because I do it.  That's it, that's all.  Really not a big list but it's funny that as I grow older I find that I'm being pickier about my friends.  I don't feel the need to be surrounded by people and a big group of friends.  Maybe that's why I removed myself from facebook.  I promise I won't go on and on about facebook but here is my one rant.  Updating your status is not keeping in touch with people.  I find that so many people think that they are keeping in touch with distant friends and family by reading their status and updating their own.  This is not communicating people, this is making a statement for all your 346 friends to view and move on.  I just don't get it. 
I've realized since being home I'm a traditional person, more traditional than I ever thought.  I'm domestic, I love to do the domestic things.  I like to spend time with kids more so than adults; kids are so innocent and marvel at the littlest things that adults take for granted.  And, I like to keep in contact with people the old fashioned way of having them over for coffee or talking on the phone. 
Now don't get me wrong I did like facebook when I was on it but now I don't think I will ever use the site again.  I don't see the need for it when we have telephones that do still work. 
Well that's my rant and ramblings for this week. 
Next time I'll try to be more focused and stay on only one topic.

1 comment:

Jen said...

It was great to see you! And I really do hope that we don't wait another 10 years. ;) And yes, I also agree that it's great to have friends that you may only see every 10 years, and talk to every few months but that you know your still good friends - so great. And I am so lucky that you are one of those people. Thanks! :)